This New Year’s Resolution is tough!
Yesterday the kids were really working those buttons, and Momma was giving them more reaction than I should have.
Actually, it was ugly.
When the oldest closed her door while I was talking to her, I opened her door a little too hard (okay, way harder than necessary), and then as she did flips on her mattress, “Why can’t you stop flipping on your bed and just listen when I’m talking? Can’t you be normal for once ?” actually escaped my lips. (There were some other not nice things said, too.)
Not words I want to be saying to my babies. I want to nurture their self-esteem, not crush it with words like that. Which is why it is so important to me to change. To change while they are still young, before they enter into a world where their self-esteem is beaten down by their peers on a daily basis.
I’ve been doing 100% better on using more time-outs and not spanking, but it seems I need to work harder on positive words coming from my lips, not negative. Especially with my little girl. Like I said in my earlier confession, I sometimes forget just how young she is at times.
And now, I’m going to go give them both a couple big hugs, because you can never have too many hugs.
I struggle with this too. Makes me feel like a crappy mother – especially when I am around all those sweet, gentle patient ones. But I’m working on it too and I do slip. At least you are aware of it and are working on fixing it. That’s always a plus. And trust me – I am right there with ya!
It’s always good to know you’re not alone in this parenting thing! 🙂
Thanks for stopping by!
Ginny Marie says
Oh, it’s so hard some days! I am guilty of yelling, and it’s so frustrating when my 7 year old doesn’t even seem to care when she’s in trouble. It’s days like these when I really miss my mom, because she was so supportive and really helped my parenting.
Keep up the good work, OneMommy! I think you’re doing great. 😀
Oh, that is the hard part – when they act like they don’t even care they are in trouble! Mine actually start to laugh… which I try to remind myself could just be nervous laughter, but it still irks me!
These things do happen. I remember yelling at my son one day – yelling! And I realized I sounded like my mother when I swore I wouldn’t raise him like I was raised. But our children can really push our buttons.
Oh, sometimes I hate it when I realize I sound like my mother! 🙂 But, then as a parent, now I can see where some of that was coming from…
lol, I know! Right?