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Forgiveness

June 6, 2012 by OneMommy

Sometimes it is amazing what children can teach you.

It was a mere 4 minutes after my oldest head-butted her little brother.  And I mean she head-butted him HARD.  Yet, when she came over to apologize after her time-out, he couldn’t wait to hand her the Potato Head he had put together just for her.  No hard-feelings.  As if it had never happened.

Children live in the now.  They forgive and move on.

Why does that become so hard once we become adults?

We let things get under our skin and they eat away at us.  Holding grudges, hanging on to how we have been wronged in the past, it takes so much energy out of us.  It keeps us from enjoying new blessings.

Honestly, I have been thinking of the importance of forgiveness for a while now.

Sure, I can forgive the little things easily enough, someone forgetting to call, a favorite trinket being broken.  It’s those big, I’ll say life-changing, events that I have been struggling with.  But lately I have realized just what I’ve been missing out on by holding on to the past.  I’m not who I want to be, and it’s time to forgive and move on.

And honestly, I’m a little afraid.  I’m talking years that I’ve held on to the hurt.  Where do I even start?

And perhaps the hardest part?  Forgiving myself as well.

 

Filed Under: Parenting & Life Tagged With: faith, forgiveness

Comments

  1. Patricia says

    June 6, 2012 at 7:33 pm

    Oh that’s a biggie. It is so hard sometimes to let grudges go. I do believe that holding onto past hurts harms us more than the person we’re angry at. Do it for yourself if nothing else, and you’ll probably find that you feel better.

    • OneMommy says

      June 7, 2012 at 9:02 pm

      Oh, I am sure holding on to the hurt has hurt me and my closest loved ones more than the individuals in question.

  2. robin says

    June 6, 2012 at 8:00 pm

    “And honestly, I’m a little afraid. I’m talking years that I’ve held on to the hurt. Where do I even start?”…… that’s what I would like to know…… it’s hard to forgive others and sometimes even harder to forgive ourselves.
    loved this post

  3. Kristen says

    June 6, 2012 at 10:17 pm

    I hope you find some peace with all of this. Forgiveness is so much harder as an adult. We know the pain too well. We get upset with ourselves for allowing that person to let us down or hurt us. Sometimes you just need to forgive even while walking away. It will do your heart well.

    • OneMommy says

      June 7, 2012 at 9:26 pm

      That’s it – I need to forgive myself for allowing it to go on for as long as it has and letting certain people have such control over my life.

  4. Katrina says

    June 6, 2012 at 11:03 pm

    I think what makes it hard as adults to “forgive” is that while me may forgive, we never forget. And that makes the hurt feelings come back again and again. I think children “forget” as the day goes on. I know around this house, a brother might tear down another brothers Lego building, and there’s a few words and tears, and then they are playing together the next minute….if I mention the incident that night while tucking them into bed, the “wronged” brother will look confused and then say, “Oh yea… he DID destroy my Lego building today! I forgot he did that.”

    But adults? We don’t forget. And that makes the forgiving all the more harder. That’s my theory, anyway 😉

    • OneMommy says

      June 8, 2012 at 3:05 pm

      I agree, especially when it comes to big things, we don’t forget. Little ones just move right on.

  5. Emmy says

    June 7, 2012 at 11:48 am

    Yes, I truly do think it is kids ability to forgive and let go like this is the reason we are told in the Bible to be like a little child. It really is amazing.
    And as someone who has needed to be forgiven and has had to forgive some incredibly difficult things- it is so hard but it is also so freeing. Good luck.

    • OneMommy says

      June 7, 2012 at 9:24 pm

      Thank you for your kind words – I am hoping that finding forgiveness will truly be freeing as you said.

  6. Allie says

    June 8, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    Great topic!

    As I was reading I realized as adults we expect other adults to act like they know better. So when they act like children or do something unexpected or wrong, we tend to step back and not want to forgive or move on. We are thinking “They should know better.”

    ~Allie

  7. Chelle says

    June 8, 2012 at 5:37 pm

    Lovely piece. The more I watch children, the more I remember that adult is the root of adulterated…meaning all fouled up. Lately, I’ve been ruminating on the words of Marianne Williamson….”love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn.”
    Hmmm….
    Peace and good.

    • OneMommy says

      June 12, 2012 at 3:02 pm

      Love that quote – so true!

  8. Shell says

    June 9, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    If only everything could stay as simple as it was in childhood!

    • OneMommy says

      June 12, 2012 at 3:03 pm

      So true!

  9. Pamela-Still Dating My Spouse says

    June 12, 2012 at 8:04 am

    Oh my good post! I wonder the same thing sometimes. Why do we let things fester & build into a mountain instead of letting it go and forgive? I’m trying to figure that out as well.

    Thanks for the analogy of your kids forgiving. We all need to be more like your son!

    Have a great day! Can’t wait to see what your next post is on blogfrog.

    Pamela
    Still Dating My Spouse
    http://www.stilldatingmyspouse.com

    • OneMommy says

      June 12, 2012 at 9:45 pm

      It may remain one of life’s great mysteries… but I am definitely trying to work on forgiving in a more timely manner. So much better for all relationships.

  10. Fawn says

    June 15, 2012 at 11:40 pm

    Forgiving yourself is definitely where you start. When we forgive ourselves, it’s much easier to forgive others. When we’re hard on others, we tend to be that much harder on ourselves.

    • OneMommy says

      June 17, 2012 at 11:36 am

      So true. We tend to hold others to the standards we hold for ourselves.

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