You’ve heard the old adage, “Actions speak louder than words.”
This is doubly important when you think about the messages we send our children each day.
Yes, we tell them, “I love you.” And when we see their new artwork or what they’ve built with blocks, we tell them, “Great job!”
If you “fix” the creation she built out of blocks while she is out of the room, what message are you giving her?
If she helps you fold the laundry and then you refold it, right before her eyes, what are you telling her?
If he greets you with a big hug and the tops of half a dozen dandelions and you toss them into the trash instead of finding them a glass of water, what message did you just send him?
If he dresses himself for the very first time and winds up with his pants on backwards or his shirt inside out and you immediately pull off his clothes and fix them, what are you telling him?
If you log on to the computer as soon as you get home instead of asking about their day, or you leave the room while they are telling you about their latest drawing, what does that say?
If they ask you to play with them, and you tell them, once again, “In a minute…” and then you keep scrolling through Facebook, Pinterest, or whatever, what have you taught them?
I don’t want my children to feel like they aren’t good enough or that they can’t live up to my expectations. I want them to be proud of their accomplishments, to learn independence, and know that I love them just as they are. I want them to feel valued, to know they are more important than a silly computer game or the latest Facebook status.
Every day we send our children messages. The question is, what kind of message do you want to send your children?