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Remembering Grandparents

October 25, 2011 by OneMommy

I’ve mentioned before how thankful I am that my kids get to see both sets of grandparents fairly regularly.  We live next door to my in-laws and my own parents live just a little over an hour away.

Growing up I never really got to know my mom’s parents; in fact, I really don’t know much about her family and growing up with 13 (or was it 14?) kids.  Eventually, I know, she went to live with her oldest sister, and as a child I was blessed with Christmas every year at my Aunt Bert’s house – in ways it was very much like celebrating Christmas at a grandparent’s house.

My father’s parents didn’t live too far away, 30-45 minutes?  And we saw them each Sunday, but I can’t say I was super close to them.  My grandfather had Alzheimer’s and, frankly, my grandmother kind of scared me a little.  I remember the t.v. being on all the time (Dallas, anyone?) and spending a lot of time coloring with crayons that were stored in an old tobacco can.

So what brings me to today’s memories?  My little girl broke one of the few items I have that belonged to my paternal grandmother.The little trinket box is probably not worth anything.  Heck, I don’t even know if it meant anything to my grandmother.  (I don’t remember ever really talking to her; she didn’t take me to her room to tell me stories about the trinket box or any family stories…  That’s the biggest reason I work so hard to make sure my kids have a close relationship with their own grandparents.)

But that’s all besides the point.

That little golden trinket box was one of the few things I had of hers.

I felt silly when, after letting my little girl know it was okay that it was broken, I began to reminisce and actually started to cry in the shower.

I was in 7th grade when my grandma passed away; my sister was 19 or 20 and our female cousin was just a couple years younger than that.   Just how did I wind up with the trinket box?  Simple, it was something no one else seemed to want.  That’s how I got the chipped piece of China and my grandfather’s old wind-up alarm clock, too.Grandma’s good China went to my cousin, rightly so, since she is the only daughter of Grandma’s only daughter.   I remember going into Grandma’s room as my aunt, cousin, sister, and mother looked through the jewelery.   Somehow in going through the jewelry, no one thought that I might want a nice piece when I got older, and I was always too shy to speak up.  I wound up with the mix-matched, junky stud earrings, (Grandma was always losing earrings, or so I’ve been told.) and a tacky, plastic cameo.

In the shower today I cried for that little girl who was too shy to speak up, who didn’t really get to know any of her grandparents, and who has just small pieces of what most people would call junk to remember them by.  I will NOT let that happen to my children.

I want them to have memories of playing and talking with their grandparents.   Thankfully, right now, they have grandparents that interact with them on their level.  (And after today, I am making sure to capture more of that on video and film for when they are older.)  And in the future, when the unspeakable happens, I will make sure that my children not only get to choose things that remind them of their grandparents, but that my husband and I also choose things to set aside for them when they are older.  After all, every child deserves something special to remember their grandparents by.

Filed Under: Mommy Moments Tagged With: family, grandparents, kids, parenting

Comments

  1. shari lynne says

    October 26, 2011 at 12:33 pm

    This is very sweet. And I can sooo relate! Over the years my kids have broken many of the things from my Mom (she died 15 years ago) It’s a long sordid story but I got very few of her things.

    I have let this drive me to making sure I have plans for my kids to have some of the meaningful things I have. So this will not happen to them!
    Thanks for sharing your heart OneMommy!

    Blessings
    Shari

    • admin says

      October 26, 2011 at 2:50 pm

      Making plans so they each get something meaningful is a great idea – I’ve seen so many families fight over who gets what, and that really shouldn’t have to happen when dealing with the loss of a family member.

  2. Kristen says

    October 27, 2011 at 9:58 pm

    I am so thankful my parents live close, are very involved in the girls’ lives, call, mail, visit, attend sports events, school events, church events. If it has anything to do with Ash & Bean…they are on it! I don’t have that many great memories with my grandparents either but I know my girls will. It always amazes me at how happy I am when I see how happy my girls are with my parents. It overwhelms me at times! Great post!

    • admin says

      October 28, 2011 at 10:40 am

      That’s it exactly. I think we always want a little better for our children than we felt we had. Since I feel I missed out a little with my grandparents I am always thankful that my children have such a close relationship to their grandparents.

  3. Joy says

    October 27, 2011 at 10:47 pm

    “Stuff” can be very sentimental. I have a lone fork that belonged to my grandmothers mother. I never met her as she passed away before I was born. I can’t explain it, but I just treasure that thing! There were seven pieces of her silverware set left and ironically there happened to be seven granddaughters when my grandma passed away. We each got a piece.

    • admin says

      October 28, 2011 at 10:37 am

      It’s funny what we treasure, isn’t it? I love that there were 7 pieces and 7 granddaughters – I bet each cherishes her piece in her own way.

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